I enjoy sex immensely, I enjoy a great 2-8 hour sex session, foreplay and all else that falls into that category. However, for the past two years I really don't enjoy myself when I with a woman. The sex is dull and routine. I have had sex with around 25 woman and sexual encounters with at least 40. And actually for a while, I did have a routine in bed. I would do the same positions, in the same order. It seems as though the women I'm with can not please me. I even entertained the thought that I might be gay, but I am definitely heterosexual. I talk to all my partners before having sex, about sex, and I think sometimes that either they are intimidated or turned off. I don't know if it is because I have had such a variety that I'm just plain bored, or something is missing, internally. I love pleasing women in every way possible and am very respectful of women. It's not that I don't have a sexual drive, I think it's that I can't seem to find great sex anymore. Advice?

My advice is very simple: stop having casual sex. I know a one-night stand can be attractive, but a string of one-night stands is not only dangerous, in terms of catching some sexually transmitted disease, but is bound to leave you unsatisfied.  To fully enjoy sex you need to have more than just sex. You need to form a relationship with the other person so that sex becomes love making. If there is no bond between you and the person you are in bed with, you might as well be masturbating while looking at an erotic video. Because you don't know these women, you fall into this routine of yours. There's no give and take. There are no surprises. There's no humanity to having sex like that. If you want to put the joy back into sex, go out and fall in love with somebody. Don't have sex on the first date, or even the tenth date. Let yourself get close to some woman, allow yourself to learn to love her, and then when you do have sex together, you'll discover how magical it can be.