 For my whole life, I have only been able to climax with my hand once or twice.
Every other time I have had to use a vibrator of some sort on my clitoris. I just recently got a boyfriend and he gets really upset when I want to use a vibrator. He tries his different ways to make me orgasm, but none of them work. So when I get frustrated, and just need to climax and suggest the vibrator, he freaks out and makes me feel really guilty about it.
This frustrates me more because I know that I can orgasm this way and I want to, but he makes me feel bad for wanting to. And he has made this "rule" that I can only use it like once a month or so. So for me, that means an orgasm once a month when he gets to have an orgasm about 6 to 10 times a week. What can I do? Please help me!
 Your question is one that I have to take a deep breath before answering because it would be easy to say to you to call him up right now and say that you never want to see him again. His attitude is certainly way off base, but to a great degree, it comes from ignorance, so after taking that deep breath, my advice to you is to make an attempt at educating him.
Some women require very strong stimulation to their clitoris in order to have an orgasm, which they can only obtain from a vibrator, and you are one of those women. You are not alone and you have no choice in the matter. He’s jealous of your vibrator because it can do what he can’t, but, again, this is not voluntary. The use of the vibrator bears no reflection on his abilities, but is a requirement for your sexual satisfaction.
If he really is a boyfriend and if he really loves you, he has to get over those feelings of inadequacy and cease from trying to control you in this way (or any other way, if he is the controlling type). If he can’t accept the truth, then you have to move on. If he can, and if the rest of the relationship is fine, then you can stay together. Of course maybe he will understand, but not want to live with this situation and so he’ll decide to move on. In that case, so be it. But certainly you should not put up with being controlled in this manner.
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