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How do I get her back in the mood? |
 I've been with my partner since high school. It has been around 23 years.
About a year ago, she just stopped wanting sex. She has seen a doctor that told her she may have cervical cancer, but it has NOT been confirmed with all the pap smears and tests. The lack of sex has somehow affected our relationship and I feel as though it's my fault. Any clue on how to get her back in the mood?
 It may be your fault and the clues are probably in the relationship itself. One clue you gave me is that you’ve been with this woman for 23 years and she’s still your partner and not your wife. Maybe she resents that. But whether that is part of the reason or not, any resentment she feels toward you for any reason will lower her libido or her desire for sex. So the first thing you need to do is analyze the relationship.
This isn’t a chicken or egg situation, but rather my guess is that the relationship went south long before your sex life did. Of course a fear of having cancer is not going to help matters, so I’m sure there is not going to be a quick fix here. But if you can work to strengthen the relationship, then hopefully the doctor will decide that she’s healthy and then you can start working on jump-starting your sex life. If you need professional guidance, then get it.
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