While it’s true that most couples do advance through the various stages of a developing sexual relationship in the same way, many people also get bored with their sex life after a while, so instead of following the tried and true formula, why not make one up of your own? For example, most young men will want to fondle a woman’s breasts and that probably happens long before he’ll ever give his partner a foot massage. But since you’re facing a blank slate, why not go right to the foot massage and save your breasts for a while?  So, my advice to you is to make up your own game plan.  Let yourself be inventive and not tied down to what everyone else is doing. In the end you’ll experience all the many parts of having sex (and how long it takes to complete that process is up to you), but if you can get there using your own route, I’ll bet that your relationship, which I hope turns out to be a long one, will turn out stronger and more vibrant.