My wife of 5 years and I are having a difficult time with our sex life. She rarely climaxes so to her sex is a chore I have tried to make things better and fun but nothing seems to work. Sex is dull and often one sided, and I have asked her what I can do to make things better for her.   

I want her to enjoy sex with me. I know if it was more enjoyable for her things would be different, I'm at a loss I hope you can help me with your ideas or suggestions. Thanks for your time and prompt response. 

First of all, is your relationship okay? Don’t guess, but ask her, and without bringing up sex. Maybe she’s angry at you for something totally unrelated to sex and that is causing her not to enjoy sex.

If there’s really nothng wrong with your relationship, I suggest the two of you read a book or two about sex. I can’t tell from your letter how much you two do know, but maybe yours is a case of sexual illiteracy. Maybe you don’t know how to give her an orgasm, or maybe she doesn’t know how to let you do it. If that doesn’t work, then the two of you should consult a sex therapist.