I know you think that you’re reporting bad news, but since you can masturbate to orgasm, this shows that your problem isn’t very grave. You may have to teach your partners exactly what you need with regards to clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. You may also have to wait a while until you are in a relationship where you are completely comfortable with your partner, including the surroundings where you have sex. For example, if you don’t feel as if there is enough privacy, that could be enough to prevent you from having an orgasm. And you must also be aware that most women cannot have an orgasm from intercourse alone. So in my opinion, after you become a little more experienced, this will all work out. Many young women have similar issues and soon learn what to do to become orgasmic with a partner. So be patient, and keep in mind that the fact that you are orgasmic is really the most important factor in your eventually becoming orgasmic with a partner.