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| Will a supra-cervical hysterectomy prevent me from achieving internal orgasm? |
 I am 39 years old and scheduled for a supra-cervical hysterectomy next week, due to a history of fibroids with very heavy bleeding.
I have been married for over six years and luckily, have a beautiful son who is four years old. I have always had a very active sex life since I was a teenager and ALWAYS was able to have multiple orgasms, but ONLY with penetration. I have found that the last few years, since my son was born, it has been harder and harder to achieve an orgasm. I would think that it was because of my c-section (maybe they cut through some nerves) or the fibroids themselves just have gotten so big (my uterus is the size of 14-16 weeks pregnancy), or maybe just the fear of bleeding, which has started happening during sex, again due to the fibroids (and then cramping like I have my period, after I was finally able to achieve an orgasm). My GYN is leaving my ovaries and my cervix and "claims" that I should have NO PROBLEM with sexual function and enjoyment after the surgery, but I fear that taking my uterus out will definitely inhibit my ability to have "internal" or "uterine" orgasms, which I have enjoyed all my life, and seems to be the ONLY way I can achieve an orgasm. I have never enjoyed and actually get "turned off" with oral sex. I really would like to talk with a sex therapist, but not sure where to find a reputable one. I live in N.Y. Any comments would be greatly appreciated!Thank you.
I wouldn’t be surprised if there are some changes in your sex life, but they could be very minor. Certainly your condition makes having sex much harder, so maybe the improvement after the surgery will more than make up for any other changes that take place. So don’t worry about it for now, but instead concentrate on getting through the surgery and having a strong physical recovery. |
I do maintain my private practice, and since I am based in New York, you could send me an e-mail in care of this website to make an appointment, but I would suggest that you wait before seeing a sex therapist. I understand that the anxiety that comes from having to have this surgery is weighing on your mind, but until you’ve had it, recovered and have started having sex again, it would make no sense to seek out a therapist. Hopefully the problems you’re fearing won’t come to pass. If you do run into difficulties, however, a therapist would have to know what they were to try to help and right now it’s too early.
