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Is it abnormal if an 18-year-old does not become sexual aroused? |
 My daughter is 18 and has a boyfriend she is serious about.
They have not had sex. We have an open and honest relationship and she has told me that she does not feel aroused when with him. Is this normal? It seems to me that if you are in love with somebody and are kissing them, you should feel something.
 An 18-year old may enjoy a young man’s company but have a lot on her mind and find that she is not sexually aroused. She just might not be ready for that stage yet. What actually concerns me more is your attitude. Are you pushing her into having sex? Are you the one asking her about her sex life? Or is she coming to you wondering why she’s not aroused when she’s with him. If it’s the latter, then that’s fine and you should reassure her. But if you’re prying, which in effect is putting pressure on her, then that could be damaging. If when she’s with him, she’s thinking “I have to report back to Mom what I’m doing,” I could certainly see that as being a cause for not being able to become aroused. So while I don’t want to jump to any conclusions, I do hope that you are respecting her privacy.
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