 Okay, so here is my question. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and have been friends for over three years. We had been sleeping together for quite a while and then in August, he stopped having sex with me.
We still sleep in the same bed every now and then, and when I try to initiate any kind of "action," he will push me away. Now he had told me that there is no one else and he hasn't been seeing anyone else at all, but one thing he does say is that we have some classes to take and he wants to wait until those are over with. Why all of a sudden does he stop sleeping with me and make this excuse for a class being in the way? Am I off my rocker or what is the deal?
 Obviously I can’t give you a definitive answer, and maybe you don’t need one. Maybe you just have to stop seeing him based on what has happened so far, because clearly something has happened, and if he refuses to tell you, then how strong a relationship can you have and where is it heading? So you could just decide that it’s not worth it and move on with your life. When you tell him that, maybe he’ll open up to you and then you can reassess, or if not, you say goodbye.
If I had you in my office, the first question I would ask you is how is the rest of the relationship? Does he still kiss you, put his arms around you, hold your hand, say he loves you, or has he completely cut off all physical contact? If the answer is the latter, then that’s one more strong indication that you need to put this relationship behind you. On the other hand, if he is still affectionate, then perhaps you might agree to try to work this out, assuming he’s willing to open up a bit more. Whatever you do, I certainly wouldn’t just wait around for him to let you know when things are back to normal.
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