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Why is my boyfriend avoiding me? |
 I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we have always had a good sex life. He has been having problems at home.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we have always had a good sex life. He has been having problems at home. He has been living with his mom, sister and brother for the past two to three months. Basically, he is the sole provider for the house and finances at home are getting to be too much. We, actually he, talked about marriage within the first five months of us being together. I even already tried on a ring in the seventh month.
He asked about me living with him in one of the apartments in his multifamily home because he could not pay rent in two homes. Now, all of a sudden, we spend no time together, I don't stay over on the weekends anymore and we have not had sex since the fourth of August, almost two months ago! My guy friends say it’s another girl, but I don't think so. Whenever I try to talk to him he just says, "you know what I am going through, but you still want to argue about this." Please help me. I love him and he says he loves me, but he is just not in the mood because he is so worried about his mom and the home situation. Could this be the only reason or am I being stupid?
 Obviously I can’t give you an answer that is going to be 100% correct, but I would say that the circumstances you describe don’t look very promising for this relationship. If you were just not having sex, that would be one thing. His financial worries could be affecting his libido, but you’re not spending any time together. That indicates a more serious problem. You’re going to have to insist that he sit down and have a serious talk with you. If he refuses, then you’re going to have to assume that this relationship is over. It’s going to be difficult, more so because you may be ending it without knowing exactly why. Not having closure, will make it tougher on you than if you knew for certain there was another woman. But, on the other hand, you can’t wait around for months to discover that he’s got someone else, or whatever the reason is that he doesn’t want to spend time with you. To me, that’s the serious issue, that he doesn’t want to be with you, rather than just not having sex.
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