Up until recently, oral sex was not a part of most couple’s sexual repertoire. And in most parts of the world, it’s still not taking place with the frequency that young westerners are using it. So billions of people are having good and pleasurable sex without using oral sex. That’s not to say that I’m against it, but I want you to put your situation into perspective. You can most definitely please your guy even if you never have oral sex. And if he were to leave you because of this, then that would say a lot about him, and the news wouldn’t be good.

Now you can certainly give him a lot of oral pleasure just by licking his penis. The underside of the head is usually the most sensitive part and the size of your mouth won’t matter if all you’re doing is licking. If he’s become very afraid of your teeth, maybe for a while you could wear a plastic mouth guard, like athletes wear, to cover your teeth. I know that sounds a little crazy, but if it’s a practical solution that works, then don’t worry what other people might think. They’re not in your bedroom and will never know. Eventually he may become less afraid and you can stop using it. On the other hand, if that works and you’re both satisfied, then just keep wearing it. Try that and let me know what happens.