How Long Is Appropriate To Grieve Over A Lost Boyfriend? |
My boyfriend passed away about 1 year and 1/2 ago. We made vows to always love each other and things like that. Lately, I have been have been having sexual feelings. First, I would like to know, how long is the grieving period before people start wanting to date and have sex. Second, should I give in to my feelings or keep the vows we made while he was here.
I know that the two of you vowed to always stay together when he was alive, but those vows needn’t bind you for the rest of your life now that he has, sadly, passed away. I’m sure if he could speak to you, he would tell you that it was okay to find a new man and make a new life for yourself. While there is no set time for mourning, many societies do look at a year as proper, and since more time than that has elapsed, I think it’s time for you to begin dating. It’s not going to be easy, and you won’t forget your first boyfriend, but it would not be fair to you to remain in mourning forever. So ease your way back into the dating process and see what develops.
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