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| How Can I Bring My Girlfried To Orgasm? |
 I am now sleeping with a woman who is used to sleeping with other women.
Part of the problem is that I'm larger in between her legs and when she orgasms she's used to being able to tighten her body more than she is able to with me because I'm...wider (stomach/hips/legs). Additionally, she is probably used to more clitoral stimulation through using strap-ons (where she normally orgasms with women) but when having intercourse with me it seems to be more difficult for her. I'm wondering if there are any products, or other things to help stimulate her as such while we're having sex. I know that part of it is probably also psychological from me being male and that things are new and we need to talk about things together and discover it for ourselves. I was just hoping you might have some suggestions for me. Thanks.
 It’s difficult for me to give you an exact answer because there are several problems operating here, and they might be effecting her ability to have an orgasm simultaneously. You say she’s used to sleeping with women, but has she exclusively been having sex with women? If she’s a lesbian, she just might not be able to become sufficiently aroused by a man to climax. And then there’s the physical problem you describe. If she’s become used to having an orgasm using certain motions and she can’t do them with you because you’re larger, that could certainly be contributing to her difficulties. And then there’s the basic issue that many women cannot get an orgasm through intercourse alone because they don’t get enough clitoral stimulation. You have to break this situation down into its various components. First of all, why don’t you try giving her orgasms either manually or orally. Assuming you’re successful, then ask her whether she was fantasizing about a woman or if she was being aroused by you. If she can only become sufficiently aroused to have an orgasm by fantasizing about women, then perhaps this is not the relationship for you. But if you can give her orgasms, both from the physical and psychological point of view, then it’s just a question of figuring out the mechanics. Perhaps she could orgasm during intercourse using positions that allow you to stimulate her clitoris, like the female superior. Or maybe she just can’t have orgasms during intercourse, which as I said is fairly common. So do some experimenting and see what you discover.
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