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No Sex For 6 Months And Desparate |
 Been married now for 10 years and together for 12. Things between us have gone down hill.
In her eyes things seem to be ok but in the bedroom things are horrific. I haven’t had sex with her for the past 6 months and I am to the point of cheating on her but I would rather be divorced first before I cheat. Personal choice and ethics, but the little devil on my shoulder is telling me to get some and the other guy tells me different. She tells me that her depression and anxiety is causing this plus she thinks she is going thru early menopause.....don’t know what to think anymore? At times I feel she wants someone else but she tells me no. What to do?
Boggled
 When you get married, you promise to stay together in sickness and in health. Now I’m not against divorce when a couple are incompatible but in this case the problem is a sickness, her depression. Would you want her to cheat on you if you had some illness that kept you from having sex? I don’t think so, and so you have to extend the same kindness and love to her, i.e. do unto others. Now it’s possible that any medication she is taking is making matters worse. Sometimes a change of medication can help someone like your wife. It’s worth discussing with her doctor but there’s no guarantee of you finding success. And hopefully her depression won’t be chronic but that she’ll eventually be able to rise above it, especially with medical help, and so find renewed interest in sex. You should certainly masturbate in order not to be sexually frustrated, but if you cheat on her, that will be doubly terrible, because cheating is never a good thing, but especially when it involves kicking someone when they’re down.
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