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 Ok, I've been married now for 9 months and our sex life is non-existent.
I was a virgin when we got married and I expected the first time to be difficult. My husband is very large in that department, but I didn't think it would be so bad. We used extra lubricant and lots of foreplay, but when he tried to penetrate, it was too difficult. I have a hard time letting go of outside things, eg stress from the day, things that need to be done, so it's hard for me to totally relax. Every time we try to have sex, it doesn't matter how wet or ready I am, it still hurts, so then I get petrified of the next time and I feel like a failure. I've given him hand jobs and oral sex, but since he knows he won't be getting any sex, he has a really hard time ejaculating. It's a really sore subject between us and we both want it fixed. Should we try therapy? Any suggestions at all would be great.
 I would definitely recommend that you see a sex therapist. There are two things going on here, a physical problem and a psychological one, and they’re playing off of each other, amplifying the overall problem. A sex therapist may be able to get you on the right track so that both problems ease up a bit, which might do the trick. So don’t give up, but get some professional help and see what you can do.
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