My roommate is my best friend. I know most everything about her and respect her through and through.

However, she is quite modest, 30 years old, and a virgin. This poses a huge problem when my boyfriend of two years is over at our place and he and I feel the desire to make love. Out of respect for my roommate I don't want to make too much noise and feel worried that my roommate may overhear us. If she has heard, she has never said anything...I wouldn't expect her to either. My boyfriend gets frustrated with me because he feels she is old enough to know and understand sex. I absolutely agree with him but he really has no idea how modest she is. At the age of 30, she still giggles like a child when she sees sex on TV. Not kidding. Am I wrong to respect her this much or should I just get over it and if she hears, she hears? She owns the home in which we live so I also feel like I'm doing something disrespectful under her roof. Your thoughts?
You’re certainly not wrong to respect anyone’s feelings, especially someone you consider your best friend. I understand that this may frustrate your boyfriend somewhat, and you, but then again, I can only assume that the reason he comes over to your place rather than you going to his is that that two of you can’t make love there, for whatever reason. The fact is that when you share space, you don’t have as much privacy as when you have a place of your own and you just have to learn to deal with that fact rather than get frustrated. But having said that, let me offer some advice. First of all, if your roommate starts to hear something she doesn’t want to hear, I assume that she could go to another part of the house where she couldn’t hear you. Or vice versa, if she’s in bed and her bedroom is next to yours, you two could go to another room, since you say you live in a house, not a tiny apartment. Another thing you could do is to play some music in your room. It wouldn’t have to be so loud as to cover any noises you might make, but loud enough to sort of muffle them, so that she wouldn’t be hearing every word or noise. They also sell gadgets that make “white noise” which would serve the same purpose. Or if you have an air conditioner, you could run it on fan, even if you didn’t need the cooling effects, and that noise would cover any noise you’d be making. And if her room is right next to yours, you might be able to add some soundproofing. You could buy a decorative wall-hanging, like a quilt, and hang it on the wall that your bedrooms share. So do try to respect her privacy, but also look for ways to get around this problem so that your love-making doesn’t have to feel too much imposed upon by her presence.