He is especially searching for see thru male underwear and sexy mens underwear but never buys anything! I have noticed this behavior for the last 4 months. Should I be concerned that he may be gay? Our sex life is okay but nothing to brag about considering we only have sex about 2 times a month at the most. We have been married 12 years and have 4 small children. Our marriage is mainly a partnership focused on raising these children. He is a caring and wonderful person but is not into expressing his feelings to me and is generally a boring person. We have little intimacy in our marriage. Please give me some advice!!

There are basically two possibilities. One is that he is gay and is looking at those sites because the models make him excited. The other is that he secretly wishes that he could wear such garments, that it would add to his pleasure, but doesn’t dare buy them, maybe afraid of how you would react. So my advice to you is to order some and give them to him for Father’s Day. I have no idea how he is going to react, but something will happen. Maybe he’ll be thrilled and your sex life will kick up several notches and then so will your marriage. Or maybe he’ll be furious that you discovered what he’s looking at on the computer, and that may spell the end of the marriage. But it seems to me that it’s not much of a marriage right now anyway, so what have you got to lose.