This is my second deployment to Iraq.

The last time I was here, we met maybe weekly online and there was a handful of times that she would flash me on the webcam and sometimes more especially if we were alone. This time I am lucky enough to have internet access in my room and am alone most of the time when I’m talking and viewing her. There have been a few times that I have put on a show for her, but she is so self conscious about her weight, that she will only show herself with a bra on. I love her and tell her that I am self conscious about my body, but still send her images of me. We have an amazing sex life when I’m not deployed. What can we do for her to become more intimate with me, or am I just wanting too much.

. If she’s willing to get undressed with you in person and you have a great sex life when you’re together, then somehow I don’t think that her problem is so much about her appearance, though that could be a small factor. I’m not saying that she wouldn’t like to be thinner, but I do believe she’s using her weight as an excuse when it comes to putting on a show for you. My guess is that what’s really bothering her is that she’s afraid of where these images will wind up. First of all you’re not using the word wife, so I assume you’re not married. But even if you were, she might still be afraid that you would tape these images and then show them to the other men. Or worse, post them on some website. And even if you swore that you wouldn’t today, who knows what the future might hold. I’m sure that when the celebrities who’ve had their tapes all over the Internet made them, they weren’t thinking of this particular risk. And maybe some people don’t care, but she obviously does.

Now, having said this, I also understand that you’re risking your life in Iraq and have sexual needs and would like to focus on this woman who is important to you in order to relieve your sexual frustrations. So what I would advise you to do is promise her that you will never show anyone the images that she sends you. While I don’t say that you should pressure her, I would also say that it would be legitimate to use your circumstances to give you some leverage. Then see what happens. If she still refuses, then there’s not much that you can do. But maybe if you let her know how important this is to you, how much you respect her and that you’d never show the images to anyone else, and perhaps, if you can say it honestly, that you have real romantic feelings for her, and not just sexual ones, she might relent, at least somewhat. I have great admiration for the men and women who are willing to risk their lives for their country, and I hope that my advice helps you out.