I am completely satisfied. We have sex regularly one to three times a week. We vary position, often look at porn together, I sometimes put on sexy clothes and we take an occasional bath together. My husband would like to go out to public places with me in only a coat with nothing underneath, take nude photos of me and have a threesome. I'm willing to go out in just a coat as long as we don't go to the usual places I frequent. As far as the photos, I'm not very comfortable about them, but may be willing if they weren't too explicit to please him. The threesome seems like a very bad idea and I don't want to risk ruining our marriage. My husband has told me if I'm not willing to be more experimental, he will find someone who is. He says he will not leave our family (we have two children), but he needs to be sexually satisfied. Help! What should we do?

First of all you should never do anything under pressure. It’s one thing for him to ask you to try different things, and quite another to say if you won’t, he’s going to cheat on you. If having a “less boring” sex life is so important to him, then he should leave you and see what greener fields are out there.

Assuming you successfully work out that aspect of his request, there are plenty of things you can do to make your sex life less boring, whether they be what he’s suggested or something that you think of, but as to threesomes, that’s nothing more than cheating. It’s dangerous to the relationship and dangerous as far as catching some disease. So maybe you can work out some compromises on what else you two can do sexually, but you should never consider bringing a third person into the relationship.

Finally, again assuming that you work out his threat to cheat on you, my advice to you would be to not only see how you can enliven your sex life, but your entire life. If your lives are filled with excitement in many respects, most importantly intellectually, then that will usually make your sex life less boring too. If the two of you are sitting around being bored every evening and every weekend, then any changes you add to your sex life will only be band-aids that will soon come off. If boredom is a problem in your relationship, work on it from many different angles and you’ll soon discover that if you can keep boredom at bay outside the bedroom, it won’t have as much of an effect in the bedroom either.