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When Does Harmless Flirting Become Dangerous? |
 For the past 2 years my boyfriend and I have been trying to deal with having friends of the opposite sex in the relationship.
I often tell him that he flirts with other women, which leads them on and makes them passively disrespectful towards me. I also tell him that when a woman is attracted to him and he makes a remark to them like "maybe if I was not already committed, something might have been able to work out" it gives them hope. Sometimes I think that I’m overreacting and trying to control his life, but I just want to be comfortable in my own relationship and not feel like I am fighting to be his main focus. Can you give me some advice, because I don’t want to lose him.
 Maybe I’m not the right person to give you advice because if I were you, I’d want to get rid of him as fast as possible. What he is doing is insulting to you. There’s no other word for it. You are not overreacting; he is treating you very badly. Now you only mention this one problem area. I suppose if he was perfect in every other way, you could chalk it up to his own insecurities, that he needs to prove himself by flirting with other women, and excuse him. But I would suspect that he doesn’t treat you very well in other ways, because it seems he has little or no respect for you. If I’m correct, and that while this problem bothers you the most, this relationship is less than ideal in many other ways, then you should think seriously about leaving him and finding someone else who will actually love and respect you. If I’m wrong, then I guess you’ll just have to learn to put up with his immature ways.
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