His mom does everything for him and he won’t stand up to her to see me so he sits in his house and plays on the internet. When we do see each other he has no sex drive. He’s always limp and never wants to have sex anymore like we used to. And when he does masturbate, which is rare, he doesn’t use his hands or anything he rubs himself on his bed til he blows in his pants. When I confront him about it he gets angry at me and tells me that I’m bi polar...which I’m not. I know this relationship is unhealthy but I just need the answers that he won’t give me.

Life is full of mysteries. Some people, like scientists, make a career out of trying to solve a few in their field of expertise, but most of us just have to accept the fact that we can’t know the “why” behind everything, especially about our fellow human beings, who do many irrational things. I would guess that he is depressed. His mother is making him feel guilty, he doesn’t know how to break away, and so that is making him feel depressed and has taken away his sex drive. I will say that your criticism of his method of masturbation is cruel. Masturbation is very personal and how he chooses to masturbate is his business.

The question for you is what to do next. If this situation doesn’t change, then I would tell you to move on. Perhaps you can help him to break free of his mother, but if you’ve already tried and haven’t been successful, then it’s time for you to go. Don’t hang around just to satisfy your curiosity. You may never find out the answer and then what, you’ll stay with him forever? If he can’t stand up to his mother and act like an adult, then you have to forget about him and look for someone new