I am also still a virgin. I do not feel that the problem is my social life, in that I am not afraid to talk to girls. As a matter of fact, most comment on how nice I am. We all hear the saying that "nice guys finish last". I understand that today everyone wants perfection in a guy or a girl and I am no Brad Pitt. I have had crushes before. It sucks that I have no experience in the dating field. Is there any advice that would pertain to my situation.

Talking to girls is not asking them out. Did you ask some out and get turned down or did you simply talk to them as friends? It’s a bit more difficult for men because they are expected to make the first move, and so risk being rejected, but if out of the fear of getting turned down you never ask any woman out, then it’s not surprising that you haven’t been in a relationship. So that’s where you have to start; don’t just talk to the women you meet, but ask them to go out on a date. You don’t have to pick the most beautiful or sexy one, where you are less likely to meet with success. Instead look for someone who appears friendly and open and who is more likely to say yes.

In addition to asking women to go out, my other suggestion, since you do have women friends, is to ask them to help you get dates. Tell them that you got tickets to a concert or a play and would like to take someone. (Make sure that you can get tickets if you don’t have them already.) See what happens. I bet they’ll be able to find you a date. She might not be the perfect person for you, but then you can ask your friends again. By using a network of people, you greatly increase the odds of finding someone rather than working by yourself. And since it is easier to meet people of the opposite sex while in college, I would advise you to begin this process soon.