My fiance and I have been together for 2 years, and will be married in a few weeks. We love each other and are very attracted to one another. Sex is wonderful with one complication... I do not like oral sex to be performed on me and it upsets her because she thinks I am not attracted to her.... I love giving her oral and sex is wonderful... but when she begins to preform oral on me I loose my erection. We are both 19... So I have no problem keeping it up. It's just something about a blow job that does not feel erotic to me. Before we met and began dating, other females gave me oral sex and it was the same case with them... It just does not turn me on when I recieve oral sex. What should I do? What’s wrong?

First of all, congratulations on your upcoming marriage. Good luck. Then I have more good news, which is that nothing is wrong. We all have individual tastes and that you don’t like to have oral sex performed on you is just that, a matter of taste. Don’t feel at all pressured into having to change your mind. I’m not saying you never will, but don’t force it. As long as you find it distasteful, then it’s something that your new wife is going to have to forego. Tell her it has nothing to do with your attraction to her. Obviously if you weren’t attracted to her, you wouldn’t be getting married. Remind her that before, ten or so years ago, very few couples practiced oral sex. It has become much more common among young people, but your not wanting to do this does not reflect on her in any way