Me & my boyfriend have been together for 8 months. The 1st 3 months were great but after that we have sex once a month.

It started happening right when i got pregnant. I’ve tried looking for him but he always gives me an excuse like he's tired or not in the mood. This isn’t his first child so I don’t think it has to do with the fact that I am pregnant nor has he ever mentioned that. I've tried talking to him about it & he just says that he's always really tired from work but even on his days off we still don’t have sex. I don’t think he is cheating on me either because he’s never given me the reason to believe that. He’s pretty good with that but I’m just really worried about the whole sex situation because I’m not the type that can be satisfied with once a month especially when we're both 22 and it’s a brand new relationship. Please give me advice in what you think might be the cause of this.

I can’t help but start off by saying I just don’t understand why you would want to be a single mother, which is what it looks like is going to be the case. But that said, I have to question the assumption you’ve been making about what was going on in his other relationship. You weren’t there, so how do you know how often he had sex with his then girlfriend when she was pregnant. There are certainly men who feel differently about having intercourse with a pregnant woman. Some are worried that they’ll hurt the baby. Others start to think of the woman as a mother, which they find to be a turn off. While others worry about the coming responsibility and that affects their desire for sex. (Somehow I don’t think the last one applies in this case, since at 22 he’s now caused two pregnancies with women he’s not married to, but you never know.) And furthermore, guess what? Your sex life is unlikely to improve once you have a baby to take care of in the household.

My advice to you would be to see if he’s willing to give you orgasms in ways other than intercourse. If he’s worried about hurting the baby, that might solve the problem. As to whether or not he’s cheating, I’ve questioned your judgment on some of your other assumptions, and though I hope you’re right, I’m not sure I’d bet on it.