I am a 23 year old female and I have been in love with my bi-sexual male friend for about 7 years. He was never interested in me before even knowing how I felt about him we were just friends.

Now we are dating (per his suggestion) and there is one problem...he wont kiss me! He says he dosnt like to kiss but I'm taking it personal and think hes having a problem getting intimate with me. What should I do? I cant be with someone who wont kiss me and he wont even talk about how he feels so I dont know if its really me. I have been waiting for him to come around all this time and now that he has I don’t want to blow it. What do you suggest?

You waited this long, so I wouldn’t be so picky about this one issue. I’m not going to tell you that this relationship is going to go anywhere. I would not be the least bit surprised if it crashed and burned at some point. But if you waited this long to start dating, and then pushed him away only because now you find out he doesn’t like to kiss, how are you going to feel for the rest of your life if he decides it’s not worth dating you any more because you pushed him on this kissing business? My advice is to give this relationship your best shot. Forgive him everything and anything. But, set a time limit. In say three months, you have to reassess this relationship. Is it what you always imagined? Are you still friends? Do you still feel the same way about him? Has he kissed you? Deep down inside, do you think he’s bi- or gay?

You’re still young, but seven years is a long time to have wasted mooning over someone. You can’t devote another seven years of your life to a relationship that you find unsatisfying and which will eventually end. On the other hand, many people are in a relationship where they have to give something up but when they analyze it overall, they decide it’s worth it. You may have to give up on the joys of kissing. If that’s the only thing, and if your feelings for him are really very strong, then maybe that’s a very small sacrifice. On the other hand, maybe now that you “have” him, you see him differently. Maybe one day you’ll find that the Beatles lyric, “love has a nasty habit of disappearing overnight” is true. So be a little patient and see what develops, but don’t show the same amount of patience you did in the past