I’ve been married for 3.5 months now. Both my husband and I were virgins before we got married.

Before marriage we only tried outercourse experiences, and he seemed to be very horny, but we decided to keep it for the right moment. After marriage, when we start the foreplay he gets really hard, but once he decides to penetrate it goes away. We failed a few times during our honeymoon, after that he's been too scared to try again. Only a few times and they were a failure, although we love each other and we've been dreaming of this moment since forever, especially him.

The key word in your question is “scared.” If he’s scared, that fear is going to cause him to lose his erection. How does he overcome the fear? Not by running away from it, but by facing it and trying again and again until it works, which it will. As long as you can both give each other orgasms in other ways, it’s not such a big deal that you can’t have intercourse right this minute. If you are patient, I’m sure that it won’t be long until you are successful.

I would also like to suggest to the two of you to get a book on sex, such as Sex For Dummies that I wrote and which the third edition just came out. (Yes, that’s a plug, but at least I know that you’ll be getting the right information from my book.) I want you to read it together and learn as much about sex as you can. The odds are that you may face other problems some day, and the more you know, the better prepared you’ll be to deal with them. You’ll also learn ways of improving your sex life. So be patient, keep having sex, and try to learn as much as you can and I guarantee you’ll have a wonderful sex life together.