I am thirty years old, and I am very frustrated because I can only have an orgasm from a vibrator.  My boyfriend goes down on me often for a long time, but it never works.  I'm frustrated because I can't ever cum any other way.  This has been going on for many years.  Can you please help me?

I understand your frustration, but think how much more frustrated you’d be if you couldn’t have sex even with a vibrator? I’m 4’7”. I can’t reach many items in my own kitchen without a step ladder. I wish I’d grown taller and didn’t need that step ladder, but I got over that a long time ago and instead feel very attached to my step ladder that allows me access to all my kitchen cabinets, not to mention my closet shelves. There are women, and you appear to be one of them, who require the strong sensations of a vibrator in order to have an orgasm. If you’d grown up a century earlier, then you’d never be able to have orgasms. Think of how lucky you are to have been born in an age where such electronic devices exist. I give you permission to feel frustrated by this need, and even to vent to your boyfriend now and then, but only for a few short minutes, and if possible not when you are having sex. After that, put those feelings of frustration aside. If you’ve never had an orgasm without a vibrator at your age, I doubt that you ever will, so just be glad, be delighted in fact, that you can achieve sexual satisfaction, and instead of fighting the truth, learn to live with it and even celebrate it. Buy yourself lots of different vibrators. Give them names and talk about them with your boyfriend (not so much that he’s going to be jealous, mind you.) Change your attitude and I think that will go a long way to solving your frustration.