Every time I try to enter her - I end up not being able to go in much. When I use my fingers - one finger easily goes in deep, but two fingers hurt her. I can feel something hard (pubic bone ? ) above my fingers (my palm facing up) - and it seems to block anything else from going in. I have no idea where to look for information or how to get help.

It sounds like your wife is subconsciously tightening her vaginal muscles, making it difficult for you to penetrate her with your penis. Since I can’t be sure of this diagnosis, the first thing that she should do is visit a gynecologist to make sure that everything is physically OK. If that’s the case, then what I’m suggesting is probably what is happening.

Let’s assume for the moment that she’s fine and my diagnosis is correct. I would begin by asking you a question: are you giving her enough, or any foreplay? By foreplay I mean physical stimulation to her vaginal area, and especially her clitoris. That will arouse her, which should help her to relax those muscles and also cause her to produce lubrication. You could also add some artificial lubrication. If you have been performing foreplay, then I might suggest that she concentrate on an erotic fantasy to keep her mind from tensing up her body. If you can’t fix this by yourselves, then I would suggest that you go to see a sex therapist. But first try to make sure that before you attempt intercourse she is as relaxed and aroused as possible.