I'm 37, married for 4 yrs, had 2 kids, tubes tied and lost the desire to have sex. I became very dry, and I don't know if I have ever had an orgasm.  I thought I was having some of the other signs of menopause, but my doctor ran tests, and she said everything is fine. She said I'm not in menopause and to see a normal doc that I am depressed.  But I DON'T feel that way!!! I just want to want to be with my hubby!!! Now he is the horneiest thing I have ever seen and it is very hard to deal with.  What can I do with my self?  HELP PLEASE!!!!!!

Let’s begin with the easy part of this problem, keeping your husband satisfied. A woman doesn’t have to want sex in order to have sex. If you’re not lubricating naturally, you can use an artificial lubricant. So at least every so often I would advise you to allow your husband to have sex with you. If he’s not quite so desperate, that will help ease the tension somewhat.

One key thing you said is that you don’t think you’ve ever had an orgasm. If you’re not sure, then you probably haven’t had one. If you were experiencing orgasms, you’d be much more likely to want to have sex. So learning how to have an orgasm is the next step. It could be something you and your husband work on together, or you could try to teach yourself by masturbating. I can’t go into all the details here, so I would suggest that you get a book. (I’d recommend Sex For Dummies that I wrote, but other books also cover the subject.) If you can learn to become orgasmic, that will definitely help your sex life.