My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about the past month. We were both virgins when we started having sex and I expected pain, but not every time. We have had sex multiple times and every time he tries to go inside of me, it hurts a lot. He needs to go really slow in and his movements need to stay slow until the pain goes away, which is usually a few good seconds later. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to make the pain go away?

I’m wondering if he is performing enough, or any foreplay on you. When a woman becomes excited, she naturally produces lubrication. That lubrication makes it easier for the penis to enter her and should prevent any pain. Men get aroused much faster than do women, and if he’s impatient, he may want to start intercourse before you’re really ready. So make sure that he spends enough time on foreplay (and only you can decide how much is “enough” which could be anywhere from five minutes to 30 minutes or more.) If you are fully aroused and your vagina is lubricated, that should solve the problem. You could also use an artificial lubricant, like KY Jelly (if you use condoms, be very careful not to use anything with petroleum jelly, as it will eat right through the condom very quickly, which is why it is better to use a lubricant made for sex.)