My fiancé is no longer interested in sex. I had hoped that this was a phase, but 6 months later I'm really worried. I have tried everything, surprising him in sexy lingerie, cooking wonderful meals and decorating our home and doing so on a very tight budget. The only thing that’s worked thus far was when I told him that since he wasn't wanting to have sex, that we should just wait until our wedding in a year and a half.

That worked 2 or 3 times, but now that has lost its luster. Furthermore, I don't like the idea of having to play some head game to get my future husband to have sex with me. We are both in our early to mid 20's and up until about 6 months ago had a ridiculously fantastic sex life. I am going nuts! I thought perhaps if I showed no interest in sex either that perhaps that would entice him, but that was a month ago and he’s just hunky dory. I am going nuts! I tried to arouse him this morning and got turned down again. I got so mad that I threw my birth control supply at him and said I wasn't going to take them anymore just so that we could have sex once every couple of months. He just rolled over and went back to sleep! I know that he loves me and I know that he's not having an affair, but I really don't know what else to do! Help!

What happened six months ago? Did he change jobs, or go on a business trip or what? It sounds to me like something happened and you have to get to the bottom of this. If you can’t do this on your own, then go to see a therapist, either a sex therapist or marital counselor. Even if he won’t go along, go by yourself. That will send him the message that you are serious and maybe then he’ll go.
I’m not going to lie to you and say that I’m hopeful for your relationship, because I’m not. I would guess that he’s still having orgasms. Maybe he’s masturbating or maybe there’s somebody else, but I don’t believe that he’s lost all interest in sex, considering he demonstrated a normal libido beforehand. So there’s something going on. It could be medical or mental. He could be depressed about something, such as losing a job or even being afraid of that happening. But it could also be something else and you have to find out what it is, sooner rather than later, because if your relationship is not going to last, you don’t want to waste any more of your precious time in a relationship that is going nowhere.