I am currently deployed and have not had sex in 9 months so I ordered a toy on the internet. When I told my husband he got upset almost like I was cheating on him. How do I make him comfortable with the idea of me having a toy, and make him feel like I'm not replacing him. I don't understand why he got mad.

There could be lots of explanations why he got mad. Here’s one. He’s frustrated by the fact that his wife has been away for nine months. He wants her in his bed, and now he finds out that she’s masturbating overseas. Thinking about that makes him mad, not necessarily at you, but at the situation, but sometimes when you’re mad, you lash out at the person nearest you. I don’t know how you were communicating, but I’m assuming it wasn’t by letters but either by phone or e-mail, so he could answer right away. Of course he might be the jealous type, even of a vibrator.
Had you asked me whether or not you should tell him, I would have told you to keep your mouth shut. You are both under stress caused by this separation and so you have to be careful what you say to each other. And in this situation, my advice to you would be to use a white lie. Tell him you’re sorry and that you gave the vibrator to a friend since it bothers him. Then continue to use it, as he’ll never know. I’m also hoping that since you wrote me, he’s apologized. I wish you good luck and a safe return home. Please write me again if you have more questions.