Is there a statistic for the amount of people who never have sex in their lives? It seems like everyone in the world has sex but me. I want to have sex, but I can't find a boyfriend. I'm 26 and I worry that my situation is hopeless.

Is there something in my nature that's preventing me from having a relationship (and the sex that comes with it)? Not even online dating works. I've been trying it for two years now, but haven't gotten as far as a kiss with anyone. It's been so long since I've liked a guy that I don't even know what I find attractive anymore.

If you were in my office and started asking me about statistics for single people, I would quickly tell you to stop. It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing; the only thing that matters to you is your situation. Clearly most people can find a partner, even several over a lifetime. Since you've had difficulties, you need to find out what to do to get a partner that you haven't been doing. It doesn't matter that you're 26, because lots of people much older than you find partners. It doesn't matter that you've never had a partner, because there are plenty of people in your situation who find partners, and you probably even know some.

You've taken an important step by posting your question. What you've done is ask for help. Asking for help is the way to solve almost any problem, because the likelihood is that there is someone out there who can offer you the help you seek. All you have to do now is follow up and find that someone, and then listen to what he or she has to offer.

In your case, you need to see a counselor. You need someone who can ask you a lot of questions that you'll answer honestly because you'll be with an expert in a private setting. From your answers, the counselor will begin to give you guidance. You'll have to trust this person and follow his or her advice. If you came to my office, I would never promise that you'd find someone within a set period of time, but if you listened to me, I could assure you that you would find somebody for yourself.

So your main objective now is to stop looking backward and start focusing on the future. Go find a counselor -- a sex therapist, a social worker, a psychologist -- whom you can confide in and who can offer you the assistance you need. Once you make that appointment, you'll be on your way to finding the partner you've been seeking for so long.