I enjoyed it. My wife and I have a good sexual relationship and have two teenage boys. Over the years, I have often masturbated and wondered what it would be like to have another sexual relationship with a male!  These feelings are very strong at times and sometimes I find it hard not to go out and try it. I do honestly find myself attracted to both sexes and do not have a sexual problem with my wife. I have hinted over the years about gay sex but not pushed it too much to my wife. Should I keep fighting these feeling and just relieve myself with masturbation?

If instead of telling me that you had fantasies about men you said that those fantasies were about redheads. Would I tell you to go out and have a fling with a redhead? Of course not. that would be cheating and if you really love your wife, and don't want to risk wrecking this 19 year marriage, then the only good answer is to masturbate while thinking of redheads but not attempt to have sex with one.

Now if you had said that you could only become aroused when thinking of men, and that this had been going on for all nineteen years, then I might give you different advice. In that situation I would say that you were probably a homosexual and that you should give careful consideration,  with the help of a professional counselor, to leaving your wife and living the life of a homosexual. But since you didn't say that, then I think that you should not endanger your marriage by cheating on your wife, or put her at risk for catching some disease, and instead continue to masturbate from time to time while thinking about having sex with men.