I am a very sexual being; he would be satisfied with 1 or 2 times a month. This is our conflict. Not only is it effecting our relationship, it is seriously making me depressed, self-conscious, and I am starting to feel extremely inhibited when I am around him. I try often to take different approaches to talking to him about it, but nothing seems to work for the long term. He was my best friend before we started this relationship and I absolutely adore the ground he walks on.

I say over and over again that people have different sexual appetites and that no one should be pressured into having sex if they don’t want to, but if the differences are too great, then that can harm the relationship to the point where it becomes unworkable. Apparently you are at that point. Since I assume you want to save this relationship, something has to be done. The first thing that needs to be discovered is why his desire to have sex with you is so low. Notice I didn’t say that his libido was low. At this point we don’t know that. He could be masturbating, or even having sex with someone else, which would result in his not wanting to have sex with you. If his libido is actually very low, it would be important to know why. Is it because he has a lot of stress or could it be a physical problem that needs medical attention? My guess is that you’re going to need some professional help to get to the bottom of this, and if he won’t go, then you go by yourself. You may not be able to solve the problem by yourself, but you will find it very helpful to have a skilled ally guiding you.