Is this normal? Is my marriage a sham? I do not feel loved and cherished, I feel dirty when he tells me these things. What should I do?

If it were me, I would pack my bags and be out the door as quickly as possible, within the hour. But I don’t know all your circumstances so I can’t simply advise you to do that. But certainly this marriage is not a healthy one and either needs some serious repair work or it should be ended. I can’t believe there weren’t hints of his character flaws before you walked down the aisle, but that’s water under the bridge and you have to find a solution to your current problem. Seeing a marital therapist would definitely be of help to you, though my guess is that the help you’ll be given is how to separate from this man