I am a married female, age 44. I would like to have sex with another woman. My husband says it is fine, and he does not mind. We are happy together. He says he will stay away or just watch. What do you think? I think having oral sex with a woman would be wonderful. I also enjoy it with my husband.

Fulfilling such fantasies can be a very erotic experience, but it can also be a very dangerous one to the relationship. It doesn’t matter so much that it would be with a woman or a man. Making love raises many emotions and it’s always possible that you could find yourself more strongly attracted to this woman than to your husband, and that would be the end of your marriage. So if you treasure your marriage, keep such ideas at the fantasy stage. Fantasies that are lived out can sometimes turn into nightmares.