I love pleasing my girlfriends orally, and feel that sex would be much better for her if I could stand to do it (yes it is that bad). I've hinted around the subject, but she doesn't seem to think it's abnormal. So, I have two questions. Is douching not healthy? I've had a couple of girlfriends tell me it's not (not surprisingly, they were the ones I couldn't give oral sex to). Second, how could I possibly bring this up without hurting her feelings?

A healthy vagina should not have a smell that you couldn't stand. Often times such a smell, especially if it is "fishy", indicates some sort of infection. So what I would suggest to you is to read up on vaginal infections. (I know it's an odd subject for a guy, but you love your girlfriend, right, so make this sacrifice.) Then tell her that you were looking at one of your mom's magazines (I believe in white lies) and read an article on vaginal infections and that you think she may have one. Look, it's hard for a woman to smell her own vagina, unless she's some sort of contortionist, or unless it's smells very bad. As her partner, you get a lot closer to it than she does, so it's natural that you would notice this aroma. Don't comment on it. Don't say it's disgusting or anything. Just say that you'd noticed it and then you read about it and you wanted to tell her. She may feel a little badly, but it shouldn't have a negative effect on your relationship. And after she's seen a doctor and had it cleared up, it should actually help the two of you.