Nobody, male or female, should have sex under pressure and it certainly sounds to me that you are being pressured into having sex, even though it’s something that you want too. After all there are many things that I’m sure you want. I’m sure you’d love to drive a car, but you know you’re not ready. And it’s the same thing with sex. Why wouldn’t you try to drive a car right now, before you got your license? Because you’d be scared that if you got into an accident you would be in a lot of trouble. You might even injure someone and have to go to jail. Well, if you caused your girlfriend to get pregnant, you both would be in a lot of trouble. That’s one important reason for young people to wait. The older you are, the better able you are to handle this sort of trouble. At your ages, this trouble might change the direction of your entire life, and not in a direction that you would want.

And no matter what age someone is, if they’re confused about whether or not to have sex, the decision should be not to have sex. I know there are people who take this decision lightly, but in my opinion it should never be a decision to be taken lightly. When having sex matters so little that it’s like brushing your teeth, then it loses a lot of its impact, both physically and emotionally. I think it’s better to keep sex special so that it remains an important act that two people share. There is going to come a time when you’re going to be certain that having sex with a certain someone is the right thing to do. Maybe you’ll be a few years older and madly in love with that someone, or maybe you’ll be in your 20s and just married. Whenever that happens, you’ll know the time is right for you. And from what you’re telling me, that time hasn’t arrived yet.