 When we had first time sex he asked me to shave or trim my pubic hair, I did for some time but then didn’t want to any more. He asked again, and it sounded like a condition (I have to). I "expected" to get nice words once I do so, that he looks at me, tell me how much he appreciates, but he never did. So I felt unappreciated and unaccepted as I am, and didn’t want any more (to shave), made me feel naked, felt even ugly, was ashamed to shower in gym ... and didn’t let him look or touch me down there any more, like hiding. Sex only from back, slowly loosing my sex drive with him. Am I too conservative? Do I have to do it, even though it doesn’t work for me? Why the hell are visuals so important. I am stuck there, and do not know how to continue.
 I am never for anyone doing anything under pressure. And certainly if he knows that you don’t really like doing this, he should at least offer you some positive feedback. But it seems that there’s a relationship problem here that’s bigger than the issue of shaving your pubic hair. I wonder a bit how much actual communication there is going on between you. Are you saying things in this e-mail that you’ve never said to him? One would think that if you won’t let him have sex with you except from behind that this would be sending him a message of some sort. Have you two talked about why you’re doing this? And if you have, why won’t he bend a little? As I said, you two need to talk about this some more and if you’re still having problems, then write me again.
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