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My husband wants me to have sex with another man |
 I and my husband have been married for five years. We are both in our late twenties and deeply in love with each other. Just recently my husband shocked me by saying that he wanted me to have sex with another man while he watches. He said that it was his biggest fantasy to see me have sex with someone else. At first I was totally against it and really mad at my husband for suggesting something like this. But gradually I began to think about it and found that it seemed a bit exciting. My husband says that he already has found someone who would be willing to have sex with me. My husband is really insisting and says that he would ask me to do this only once. But I am still a bit apprehensive. I love my husband and don't want to do anything that will endanger my marriage. Please advice.
 You say you don’t want to do anything that would endanger your marriage so let’s do a little risk analysis. Certainly there is a possibility that doing this would lead to an end to your marriage. Maybe you’ll decide that sex with this other man is so much better than sex with your husband that you won’t be satisfied with your husband any longer. Maybe you’ll feel so disgusted afterwards that you’ll look at your husband differently for making you do this. Or maybe your husband will keep asking you and who knows where that would lead? So the risks are definitely there. So now the question is, what level of risk to your marriage would you find acceptable? 25%? 10%? My answer would be 0%. I would say why put your marriage at risk at all over something like this. But that’s only my opinion. Only you can answer the question. And only you will have to live with the consequences as well.
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