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I am involved with my married dance partner |
 I have been seeing a man for a little over a month. Initially it started as I
might become his ballroom dance partner. While I am still his dance partner,
we have become interested in becoming sexually involved. Two issues. Upon my
asking, he admitted to being married, living in same house, but not in a
sexual relationship with his wife. "They have separate bedrooms.", per him.
Some of our friends in the dance group have been to his house and what he
said seems to be the case. Next issue, he is retired and is a dance host on
cruise lines for the past year. About 6 months ago he told me he slept with
2 female passengers. That is not allowed on ships. Claims he realizes that
was a mistake and after the up coming cruise he will not take such long
cruise. My concern. He is going on a 2 month cruise and I believe we should keep sex
out of our relationship until he returns and then evaluate the situation
between us. If I have sex with him, I would use a condom and believe both of
us should be checked for HIV.
 First off, there are lots of sexually transmitted diseases, so if you two did get sexually involved you, and more so he, should be checked for every one, not just HIV. But why would you want to get involved with him? He’s married, and doesn’t seem to give any indication that he’s going to leave his wife. Instead he goes off on long cruises. And when he’s away, he’s not there for you or her. I think you’d be better remaining friends or dance partners but not anything more.
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