My question to you is, how long has this been going on? If when you were dating, of your own volition you would dress provocatively, and that's what attracted him to you, and now you don't want to any more, he has a point. It's as if you bought a sports car that suddenly wouldn't go faster than 40 mph. You'd feel cheated. On the other hand, if you never used to dress provocatively but did it for him a couple of times out of fun after you were married and now he insists you do it all the time, that's another issue. I wouldn't use the word exploit. Having you dress in this manner excites him, just the way you may be excited at something he does. To some degree, you should be happy that he admires your body and wants you to show it off. Now I understand that it also might upset you, but it's a little like looking at a glass and seeing it half full or half empty. If you concentrate your feelings on the negative, you'll make this worse than it has to be.

But of course, as I've already indicated, your history as a couple does come into play here, so I can't give you absolute advice one way or the other based only on what you've told me. I suggest that you both go to see a marriage counselor, to whom you can tell the entire story, and try to work this out.