Consider that you may be biting off your nose to spite your face by refusing to take the initiative. Maybe the two of you can’t have romance without you taking the initiative. I understand that it would be much better if he did it, but at this point if you don’t even want to have sex with him, then I can’t see this relationship lasting. So if you really think he’s worth it, and only you can decide that, then take the bull by the horns and make dinner reservations, go to places where romance is in the air, tell him to give you a body massage when you want it, perhaps making sure that you leave an evening open for that. You can light the candles etc. Perhaps, and I’m not saying it definitely will happen, but perhaps he’ll learn from taking part and will some day initiate some of this on his own, especially if he benefits from a better sex life. Or else you may decide that if he really can’t ever initiate romance you’re moving on. But at least try to create that romance you crave on your own and see what happens.