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At what point is pornography a problem? |
 I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he lied to me and hid porn after we had a discussion that it made me uncomfortable and he said he threw it all away. We had a very healthy sex life, however, he said he still jerked off to porn every day. His porn collection was approx.50-60 (maybe more) DVD's. When we first met he also had a subscription to Penthouse and Playboy, which he finally ended after we argued over them for several months. At what point is pornography healthy for the relationship (or is it) and at what point is it an addiction?
 I think the important question is at what point porn affects the sexual relationship of the couple. If he is masturbating every day and the two of you are having sex at a rate that you’re satisfied with, then the reality is that there isn’t any problem, except that you object to it. That’s your right and if you felt strongly enough about it to break up with him, then you did the right thing. But assuming that he wanted to have sexual release every day, would you have been willing to have sex with him every day, or would you have found that excessive? Would you have made excuses like you were too tired (not an illegitimate excuse, but a No nevertheless)? You see, sometimes masturbation can be a relief valve that helps both parties in the relationship.
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