I feel like I am getting the short end of the stick because this was the first time I ever let a man live with me, and as soon as I did, all the intimacy stopped and I feel alone and alienated. It has gotten to the point that I am starting to resent him for not being willing enough to at least see a doctor. I find myself very emotional and in tears everyday because of this. I have read lots of information about impotence, and when I try to give him information about it he doesn't want to hear it. I want to continue to stand by him, but at the same time, if he is not seeking help, and I am still single, why am I waiting?? Do I sound like a rotten person?

I’m wondering whether this idea of having a child is the main problem. It’s already pretty late for you, but he may be saying to himself, at my age I don’t want the responsibility of having a child to raise and that’s what is causing his inability to have sex with you. Impotence from medical causes usually doesn’t happen from one day to the next but is rather a gradual process. Psychological impotence, on the other hand, could certainly suddenly appear. So why don’t you have a serious talk with him about the issue of having a child. If he’s totally against it, and you desperately want one, then you should break up. Otherwise, maybe you can work out a compromise.