I am 23 years old I have been married for 3 years.(very happy I might add).  We have a 2 year old daughter.  It's a happy little family. But I have noticed that I find other woman attractive. The man I find attractive in any way is my husband. I also have dreams about being with another woman.  Not just in a sexual way but like a relationship.  

My question is am I a lesbian or bi? And yes my husband knows of this and has no problem with me looking at other woman. Can you please help?

  When you are having sex with your husband, can you become aroused by him alone, or do you need to fantasize about being with a woman? If the only way that you can become aroused is to think of another woman, then there's a good chance that you are gay. If you can become aroused by a man, then you're probably not. Of course if you keep acting like your gay, and keep looking at women and fantasizing about women, I don't know what effect that might have. So if you would prefer to remain with your husband, I would suggest that you limit those fantasies that involve women.