My wife and I have been together for four years. We have a very open and honest relationship. We have no problems at all sexually pleasing each other but lately we have been discussing the idea of bringing a "third party" (female) into our sex life, The only problem is neither one of us have a particular individual in mind and we are unsure of how to go about finding a clean respectable individual. Can you give us any recommendations as to where we should begin to look?

In your imaginations. You can pretend that there is someone else in the room, perhaps taking turns at playing this other person. As to actually having a third person there, I cannot recommend doing that. While you both might agree to do this at the outset, very often one partner becomes jealous, and that can lead to the end of the relationship. So I say it's better to be safe than sorry and not invite anyone else to share your bed. But if you want to add a little more spice to your love life, you could pretend that you had a third person in bed with you, or pretend some other situations.