She has let me perform oral sex on her several times, but she won’t perform it on me or have sex with me. I ask her if she doesn't feel comfortable with me and she says it’s not that. I ask her if she’s attracted to me and she says she is. So, what’s the problem? She says she is worried about getting pregnant and refuses to take the pill not that I asked. I really don’t think that’s the reason though. I guess my question is: Why doesn't she feel ready to have sex with me? I don’t pressure her, but I do let her know that I’m ready. I love her so much and I just want to express it in every way.

Is it really because you want to express your love or is it because you’re dieing to have sex with her? You said she won’t perform oral sex on you, but does she give you orgasms manually? If she doesn’t then your frustration is a bit more understandable, but the bottom line is that it’s her right to say no. There’s no way of guaranteeing that she wouldn’t become pregnant if you have intercourse, even if she’s on the pill, and if oral sex doesn’t appeal to her, then that’s her right to say no to that too.

You don’t say how old you both are, but I would suspect that it’s on the young side, and so it’s not as if you’re looking to get married. So the best advice I can give you is to be patient. The more you pressure her, the more she’s going to resist. If she is going to change her mind, it would be far better if she did it on her own.