My girlfriend is 31 years old and is still a virgin. We have reached a point in our relationship where she wants to have sexual intercourse. However, from the stories she has heard from her friends, the first time always hurts and she would not enjoy it. As a result she has this fear in the back of her mind now.

Our 8 year old daughter walked in on my wife giving me oral sex. We immediately sent her to her room. But now she keeps asking questions. What should we tell her? 

My question is...When having sex on a first date...is it okay to have your vibrator join you...Does a man feel intimidated when vibrators are brought into sex?